The last year I have been working hard to try to simplify my life. I am trying new things, doing things I should have been doing all along, and working on myself in all areas of my life. It’s been an exciting year, as I work harder to simplify my life at work, at home, and with my family. I have learned so much about myself. Some things I am very proud of, and some not so proud.
For example, I work very hard to be open with folks on my feelings, thoughts, and ideas. I talk to anyone and everyone; my life is an open book. I always felt that’s the best way to be until recently. Not everyone wants to hear your thoughts, your ideas, or your troubles going on in your life. I always thought when I talked to someone about how I was not feeling well or stressed out with a problem; I was just venting. Or when I gave my unsolicited advice, I was helping, but what I am learning is that sometimes when I am just venting or voicing my concerns on situations, others might see me as a complaining bossy person instead of a person blowing off steam.
To be honest, I am a control freak by nature. I sometimes voice my opinions when not asked for or not needed. It is hard for me to be satisfied with anything or anyway someone does things trying to help me out, and I make sure to voice it out as if the world owes me something. I act so entitled and so full of myself at times that I cannot stomach my own company at times. I decided it was time to make a change.
Are you ready for a change within yourself?
Learning to see these not-so-good qualities in yourself is the first step in the journey of a better you and the hardest. It’s tough for us to come to terms with the not-so-good qualities we have developed throughout our lifetime, but admitting it and wanting to change the way you will be the most significant payback to yourself and others around you.
You are doing a lot of your complaining out of habit. You are addicted to it, maybe. Being addicted to complaining sounds absurd, but I realized much later that I was playing a victim. It’s a sort of comfy place to be in, honestly. Or you may be complaining a lot to gain attention. Are you looking for sympathy? Someone comes along and holds your hand, telling you what you’re feeling is justified and valid? The more you feed the habit, the more it will take control of your life and the harder it is to kick. Stop complaining and take back control of your happiness!
Whether it’s you or someone else who is constantly complaining, what can be done to correct it and get back to positive living? Typically complaining stems from the negative thoughts you’ve created. When you realize you’re the cause of your thoughts, you blame yourself and vent it with complaining. Refuse to let those negative thoughts become you. We become what we think, just like we become what we eat, drink, or do. You also might find yourself complaining to avoid responsibility. It’s easier to make excuses and complain than take up opportunities to improve yourself.
Like any other bad habit, it is not easy to stop complaining. My curiosity and wish to experience life outside my comfort zone and looking to simplify my life across the board allowed me to develop a kind of compassion that is helping me quit complaining. I figured that the only way to change the world I live in and help simplify all that I do is to change myself and live the life I keep daydreaming about. This way, the world is losing one complainer.
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